19 March 2008

Reconnected












What a face! It is one that can light up a room, or cause a complete blackout! We have been struggling a bit with Jake and all the changes. It has been an amazing and long adventure for the Mealy family.

It is great to be able to be online with all of you again to let you know what is going on with us. And to have your prayers.

We have not had the the ability to really put the fire, or the sense of loss it brought, behind us. We still DAILY think of yet another item that went "poof". That word will never have the same meaning for the three of us. We have turned in all the mounds of paper work that the insurance company has asked for. and we are still just waiting, and waiting, and waiting for word from them. In the mean time we continue to try to just get past it. We know that God has been in control from the beginning of this move, it is still a very painful loss. We have seen him provide in such amazing ways, and new stuff is great, but there are some things that just can't be replaced! And there are days when I just want my stuff back! I do know that a key word there is "I". I am really trying to stay focused on what God is doing in us through this season of life.

As for Mark he is a rock! I don't know what I would do without him! He has been so great to make sure that I don't have to worry any more than is absolutely necessary. He is taking very good care of us. He hasn't even yelled about my tears or yelling about the stupid insurance mess. He just lets me get it out and then holds me till it doesn't hurt so badly. He too is really making an effort to look for God in the midst of it all.

Then there is Jake. My poor sweet little man. He has been a real trooper through it all. He has taken all of this in stride so well for so long. But we have been seeing signs of the pain in him recently. He has not been happy at public school from the start. It was not my first choice, but it was the only option we had. Two weeks ago we found Jake on a Monday morning hiding in his closet curled up in a ball sobbing and saying "please don't make me go back there, please don't make me go back there." That was the end of a long battle for me. It was his last day at the school.

We are now homeschooling him! It is so much fun to be back in the world of homeschooling! It is very different since I still have to work and 6th grade is WAY more work for us all than 1st-2nd grades! Jake is like a different kid! He is more relaxed, he is getting all A's again, he is taking chances and getting back into youth group and small groups. It is so great to see the change.

We haven't made any long term decisions yet. We need for me to work at least part time since the house in Marion isn't even on the market yet. Jake is open to looking at other public schools in the area, but he really wants to keep homeschooling. If I am being honest that is what I want too. We are all just praying about it.

Mark's job is great-he is so happy. He has found a Civil Air Patrol unit to join here and that has been a great connection for him. We are adjusting to new allergy issues. We love that it is spring in February here. Today it was in the upper 60's. I know, the heat is coming, but for now I will just enjoy the flowering trees and the smell of spring in the air!

Well, there is so much more, but I need to get the last load of laundry in so I can actually get to bed at a decent hour! Tomorrow is movie day at school, but I have to not fall asleep during the show!

3 comments:

Trace-n-the-Grace said...

Did you write, "flowering trees?" I pointed out a bud to my son last week, and we are supposed to get snow tonight...
On the homeschooling, good for you guys. Just take it one year at a time. I'm home-educating all four this year. It's a little bit of a juggle, but I do like having them with me.

. said...

Good to see you back online! Maybe now I'll be more faithful about keeping in touch.

I'm sorry to hear about the tough time Jake has had with school. Mine has been scraping along, too. I think it's a combo of grieving (still, no surprise) and growing.

Since you left, he's gotten taller than me, his voice has changed, and he wears large-size gloves and size 10.5 shoes! Actually, that's all happened since Thanksgiving! He sounds pretty much like Nate and Josh!

Speaking of Nate--I'm going to be a Grandma again! Tiff is due 9/15!

Well, gotta go.... I promised Lloyd we'd work on our bedroom today.

Continuing to pray for your healing from the fire. (I know how long it can take!) If you need to vent to someone who "gets it," you know where to find me!

Love you....

P.S. Do you want to read "The Script"?

. said...

Good to see you back online! Maybe now I'll be more faithful about keeping in touch.

I'm sorry to hear about the tough time Jake has had with school. Mine has been scraping along, too. I think it's a combo of grieving (still, no surprise) and growing.

Since you left, he's gotten taller than me, his voice has changed, and he wears large-size gloves and size 10.5 shoes! Actually, that's all happened since Thanksgiving! He sounds pretty much like Nate and Josh!

Speaking of Nate--I'm going to be a Grandma again! Tiff is due 9/15!

Well, gotta go.... I promised Lloyd we'd work on our bedroom today.

Continuing to pray for your healing from the fire. (I know how long it can take!) If you need to vent to someone who "gets it," you know where to find me!

Love you....

P.S. Do you want to read "The Script"?